Doc Stevens

This one is wrote by Doc. We have been wroking on Tondy to help him look like a man. He is litle and can not hlep that. Skinny to. We have wroked on fattening him up now for more than 1 year; been taeching him to not walk on his tippy toes. Plus i been teachin him how to protect hisself with weapons what won't git him in troubble. He has put some of those lesons on this blob.You can find them back there some where.

It is a lot of wrok for he was never tuaght how to be a man at all over there in Englad. I have aslo worked with him on how to meet grils for he needed bigtime hlep on that one. But now gues what. He has a girl freind. She is litle like him but is a real girl this time if you know what I mean by that. Some of them lesons he has put on this blob to.

Aslo, we have been showing him how to get dressed. We call it Man Eye for a Sissy Guy. For he did ware at first around here these things; skin tighgt blue jeans what was RED! Same thing but aslo in YELLOW and in WHITE! He would ware girls shirts with long sleves and a hole for him to sitck his thums throuigh! He wuold ware shirts what was made of black fish nets like a hookers stockings! Aslo he would ware littel slip on sneakers what soms was red, some was yellow and some was checker board! And walked on tippy toes.

He wuold then get upset when the boys round here would call him sissiy baby. He did wiegh only 105 pounds and is 5 foot 7 which is skinniy even for a Brit. Now he is 115 pounds. They do not use pounds for weight only for money. They say what they weigh is in stones. But I told him he do not weigh even ONE stone, maybe just a small rock.

But now we have goten him some new clothes what he wares when he is down here: Camo hat. Camo shirts (2of them) mens jeans. Hunting pants. Cargo pants.Tennis shoes what covers his ancles and is black. How to stay off tippy toes. He still did go buy two hats which is white and a white swet shirt like a women would ware, but he does not ware it to much around these parts.

Now here is funny. One thing was left which is his hair which is like a girl not a man with long hair which is ok if it is worn right but his is not, more like a girl. A man can have long hair in a pony tail or parted in the middle but no bangs. Bangs is for a women.

I was typing back an forth with Mike at the LiveBluesWorld ware I have my own site not done by Tondy. In his typing back and forth Mike wrote that Tondy was a good freind to me an Marilyn and that SHE must be a nice WOMAN. I typed back that NO Tondy is not a woman but a male type creature. Mike could not beleive that! He said he had seen picutures and did still think Tondy was a girl. But I said no he is not. His eyes is not bad. Tondy did really have that look about him of a girl or a sissy and that is not just us over here teasin him. Is a true fact.

I said to him Mike that Tondy does look like that Woody Alien when he was young but Mike said yes but still thouhgt Tondy was a girl. That was right and did help us when Big Dave came over. Big Dave talked with Tondy about what hapens if you get locked up over here and look like a litle woman but is in a jail cell with some men who is VERY lonely and it is not something you want to hapen so stay out of trouble. Big Dave said a mans hair cut would help Tondy be ready lee reconized as a male and not a female. Guess what. Tondy agreed and said he had been thinkin about that more and more hisself!

We were very happy as you might imagine. Now Tondy has a fresh home made hair cut which cost him nothing but about 15 minutes of seting still and lettin Marilyn use her sizzers on him. Then we took a picuture of him. You will like the new improved Tondy. He is a hit around here even with the dogs who stopped barking at him so much. Tondy is getting to be a good sport. For a Brit.

Tondeleo: Doc, you probably haven't heard, but California has voted to make it so gays can't get married anymore there. What do you think about that? I KNOW you must have some thoughts on it. Come on and tell us.

Doc: Tondy, first off, these ain't pot plants. They's weeds. But, I know when you're jerkin' my chain and when you talk about homo's wantin' to get married you figure you already know what I'm gonna say and you're tryin' to get a rise outta me, but you ain't gonna do it.

But here's what I think. I got a sister down Kingsport and she's shackin' up with a guy she ain't married to an' she and he don't wanna get married. They been together 'bout three years and she's been married twice already. So that's one thing. They aint gays. And they don't wanna get married. That' something to think about ain't it?"

You got straight folks, that's the name for folks what ain't gay, an' they just want to live together and not get married. People used to cry the blues over that one. But now you got homo's, both men and women ones, what you say want to get married. That's a new one out here, at least to me!

Homer Rathwell's boy, I think he's a gay. I ain't never asked him, but you can sort of tell. He ain't sissy like YOU, Tondy, but that's because you're a Brit and a office boy. He's American and he hangs with girls, always has but don't never date none of them. Every now and then he'll bring some sissy looking boy over for a sleepover and you can hear 'em giggling back there if you're visitin' Homer.

Now what if he wanted to marry one of them boys what he might be having gay sex with? Well, Tondy (laughing) that'd be the end of the sex - if they got married!

But I ain't care WHO he has sex with as long as it aint me an' as long as I don't have to hear about it. That's between him and the Lord. From what I hear, though, the Lord don't go for it at all.Ain't never did. But them folks ain't exactly carin' what the Lord wants and don't want. They care about what THEY want, so totin' out the Bible ain't gonna make none of them change their ways what don't want to.

Tondeleo: Doc, a lot of people think that gay marriage and homosexuality in general is a threat to straight marriage. I bet you have some thoughts about that, too!

Doc: Tondy, you're a piece of work. Gay marriage ain't never threatened none of my friends' marriages! And I ain't never been tempted to kiss a man! There's too many women out there for a man to go after another man. 'Cept in prison but I aint talkin' about that. Aint no one want to go to prison no way, and it is all about the punishment, aint it. I try to stay away from them places.

Naw, I think the biggest threat to marriage ain't gays, it's cheatin'. Cheatin' an drinkin' too much and drugs. They's a big threat to marriage, if one or both is smokin too much reefer or smokin' rock. Spendin' too much money'll threaten a marriage, too. Lot's of folk break up over one of 'em spendin' too much money. But, Tondy, cheatin' an adultery's the biggest threat to marriage, in my book. There, an' you aint got a rise outta me.

Tondeleo: Here are some more excerpts from Doc's counsel on how to raise a girl. You have to bear in mind that he has no children of his own, he says, and that Marilyn is his niece that he had to start raising just before her twelfth birthday, when his brother died. He has done a marvelous job raising her, as anyone can tell after spending a few minutes with her, and she is the pride of his life. For once, she came into the room and added her two bits worth.

Doc: Anyways Tondy, a man's job, if he's gonna be a daddy or in the place of one, is to raise a girl to know how to recognize a man who'll respect her and not take the vantage of her, if you know what I mean. They's always wooden headed boys out there just tryin' to see what they can get, an' most of the time all they can get is a girl pregnant and then they get cold feet. We ain't havin' none of that 'round here. The man's gotta be involved like bein' there when a boy shows up an quizzin' him a little bit here an' ther an' findin' out what he's about.

Like it ain't happenin' that a boy'll drive up here in my driveway an' blow his horn an spect Marilyn to come out an' hop in there with him. No sir. He comes to the door, an' comes in an' talks wi' ME first, an' lets me know where they's goin' an' who else is goin' an' when they's gettin' back which is when I set a time for. Ain't none of this 2 in the mornin' stuff, cause I ain't sittin up that late waitin' for her. An' I ain't goin' to bed til she gets in. That's IF he qualifies to take her out.

Tondeleo: DOC! You're talking about a 15 year old or 20 year old??? C'mon, man! You gotta lighten up, Doc! This is the 21st century!!

Doc: What you mean lighten up? First off when a girls' 15, she ain't got no business goin' out with a boy in a car or truck. That's a afro-daisy-act if you know what I mean. He'll get her out there and make her think the moon is blue. AIn't much gonna slow him down an' you can't expect no 15 year old girl to be able to resist, with him bein' older an' all that. No, I ain't talkin' no 15 year old. When she was 15, if a boy thought he needed to see her, he could come over here and hang out with her an' me both at first, and earn my trust before he is gettin' alone with her, an' it ain't gonna be out in the barn or in the shed or in her bedroom. They can be where I got public access when I want. I ain't tryin to be a uncle stepgran'daddy an' she ain't gonna be no single mom.

But when she turned 16, we turned on some rules an' those are the ones we stick with pretty much. Now that she is twenty, she's learnt that if a boy don't want to meet the old man, and spend a few minutes talking like an adult, he probably ain't about nothin' and ain't gonna amount to much any way.

Tondeleo: You don't think that's too restrictive? She's TWENTY ONE, Doc!

Doc: Yeh, she's twenty one. An' she ain't a mama yet and she ain't shacked up with no deadbeat an' she ain't never been in no trouble at all! I can tell you this much, Tondy, she wouldn't go out with YOU. She knows how you are an' she ain't impressed with your way of livin'.

Twenty one years old don't make no difference in right an' wrong an' 21st century whatever that is don't make no difference. They ain't but one way to make a baby, an' people do it an' then wonder what happened. You did the one thing to make a baby an' now you're shocked you got one an' think everyone ought to feel sorry for you. I feel sorry that you're that ignorant. Nobody just accidentally gets pregnant, they just don't do nothing to keep from gettin' pregnant. That's ignorant.

As for waitin' up for her, that's just about caring, Tondy. We got all kinds of deer out here, dogs runnin' wild an' anything could happen to a person out late at night - age ain't got nothin' to do with it. Yeah, I wait up for her an' she 'preciates it.

She don't go out that much anyways cause most the boys round here ain't qualifed to go out with her cause she don't want to be stuck out on some back road bein' pawed all over by a redneck which is likely to be the last time he does that when I find out cause she will come home madder'n the pope when he found out what all them priests was doin.

Marilyn: Tondy, you don't understand cause you're a boy an' you don't respect girls. Uncle Doc ain't too hard on anybody. I've had three boyfriends and they all knew the rules before we got involved and they knew I like it that way. It wasn't a problem and they all like Uncle Doc because they didn't none of them have real daddies at home that could teach them how to be real men. Uncle Doc got them working with him our in the shop and helped them with their cars and self defense so they could look out for me - everything. He even got one of them a Christmas present. I feel lucky to be like this. Most of my girlfriends don't have any kind of older man to be there for them. Their mom's boyfriends are just there to be with the mom and to live there rent free. That ain't happening to me. So there.

Doc: You gotta help a girl find out what she wants and don't want so she can pick for herself who ain't worth messin' wit so she can be free when a good one comes along. An' no, she don't have no interest in you, Tondy cause you ain't no 'merican an' you talk like a sissy. She said so herself, you talk girly.

Marilyn: That's right, Tondy. You're a Brit.

Tondeleo: At the end of September I was able to get Doc to talk for well more than an hour nonstop, and was fortunate enough to have good batteries in my recording stick. Bit by bit I'm transcribing it and putting his talks in an order that makes sense. He goes from subject to subject and then back to where he left off, which makes him difficult to follow. Here are some of his thoughts on raising his niece, Marilyn.

Doc: When my brother died an' I had to come up to Maryland to raise Marilyn, it was a hard time for both us. Her mama was gone to somewhere in Tennessee with that piece of garbage she took up with, and now her daddy was gone. She didn't barely know me an' I was lookin' a bit rough around the edges from living close to the edge for a rack of years.

Tondeleo: So how did she react, how did you cope, how'd you end up doing such a good job with her?



Doc: First it was socialist services I had to deal with. Had to prove I was 'sponsible enough to raise a girl. Had to shave, cut my hair - they ain't tol' me to do it, but Bruce down the road said it would help an it did. Had to prove I had what it takes. A clean shaved man looks like a sissy to me but looks more like a mama to them or somethin' so I done it.

Then, it was learnin' girls. Ain't never been one an' ain't understood too many. Marilyn was smart but carried a lot of drama with her. She would get mouthy an' tell me I warn't her daddy which I agreed to, but said I was the only thing keepin' her from bein' taken to a foster home, which no one wanted to happen, so she would settle down.

You gotta give a girl a lot of sit down time. Talk with her an' listen to her an' teach her how things really work. Ain't like TV. A man needs to show a girl how a decent man acts, too.

Like, a man ain't s'posed to be a drama queen. Has to get hold of his feelin' an' not be losin' his temper all the time. A man needs to work hard an' work steady so he ain't broke all the time. He needs to make her feel protected, too an' show her how a man acts who is decent.

Tondeleo: What about all the feminine stuff that a girl needs to know? As she became a teenager, and wanted to date... How did you handle that?

Doc: Well, I ain't no good on all that stuff what pertains to women and girls like once a month if you know what I mean. The ladies up the church helped with that a bit. She liked going to them church camps and stuff what they has for kids. Made that part easier. She prays a lot an' prayed for me to be a good stand-in dad for her. Church was a good thing. A man ought to take his youngin's to church.


I'm good at providin' and protectin' but I had to figure out a lot on bein' like a dad. But that's a whole lot of bein' a dad. Yeh, I did go over to the school a couple of times when boys put their hands on her an' one time a boy she turned down got actin' ugly an' I had to drive over there an' give him a man to man. But all that cut out once they knew she had a grown man who cared about what happened to her and would back her up.

See, Tondy, predator boys is lookin' for a girl what ain't got no daddy or who has a daddy what ain't there for her. I ain't like that. Once word got out, them kinds of boys went looking for easier pickin's.

Now dating. I done a LOT of teachin' her about boys. Specially teen age boys. They don't think, they just act. They will say anything to get a girl to put out, and she had just better resist especially if she liked the boy an' did not want me to hurt him bad. If I hurt him bad, he would be gone an' I would be in jail an then what would happen to her?

Tondeleo: Isn't that a lot of pressure to put on a teenage girl?

Doc: A lot of pressure??? No! Getting' knocked up at 14 would be a lot of pressure. Havin' a baby an' droppin' out of school would be a lot of pressure. Getting' clap or AIDS would be a lot of pressure. Ain't no abortin' round here. You play you pay. So, no it warn't no pressure really.

I think what ain't fair is the pressure some drunk 16 year old boy might put on a 14 year old girl whose old man ain't care enough about her to look out for her right. A real man would talk to a boy what seemed interested in in that girl and find out what he's about. You can't just let any lonely boy go out with your youngin. You sound like one of them socialist workers, Tondy.

Tondeleo: What would you have done if she had gotten pregnant as a teenager, Doc?

Doc: I don't rightly know. I can think about it in my imaginary mind. I think I would be mad first. Mad cause I was brokenhearted. Mad at me that I din't show her how a respectful man treats a girl so she was thinkin' he truly loved her when all he wanted was somethin' else.

Then I would be mad at the boy. He was just bein' a boy, but I tol' every one of them what wanted to take her out that I was doin' the best I could to raise her up for her husband one day an' I expected his help doin' it. If he didn't, I would count it as disrespectin' me and then me an' him would go round and round an' I din't think he'd want that.

I think then I might go out in the woods an' cry a bit an' ask the good Lord what to do.

But Marilyn ain't never put me in that position. She don't like no boys what drink or swear or talk dirty or does drugs. That makes it easier for me. She is a real lady. She is pretty an' that makes it hard for her sometimes, but she got a lot of big dreams an' ain't none of them include bein' stuck in a shack with a drunk ol' man an' a bunch of dirty kids an' bein' on welfare. She's a good learner an' knows how bad she wants a good life.

One other thing what helped is we done a lot of travelin' round an' she seen for herself what problems comes if you just do what's easy. An I tol' her bout all the mistakes I made an' her mama made an' she don't wanna live that way. She will make a good life for herself. Ain't no doubt in my mind.