Tondeleo: A few days ago, you mentioned how you knew guys who'd met girls at church and ended up dating them. I’m not much of a church guy and most of my readers aren’t. But I wouldn’t mind a church girl. How’s that work?
Doc: “Meetin' up girls at church! There's a difference between MEETING a girl at church and startin' to like her and goin' to church just to pick up women. Boy, you don’t want to get the Lord mad at you. But, a church is a good place for a lonely man. He can get the Lord in his life and maybe he won’t be so lonely and maybe he won’t be too selfish to get a good woman.
“But I gotta tell you something else, Tondy. Not all those church girls are sweet an innocent like you might think. Some of them came to church and gave themselves to the Lord because they have a past. They mighta been strippers, or crack heads. You can’t know. They might be gold diggers goin' to church to meet a good simple man who will be gullible. You might end up getting eaten alive. And I would say you deserve it.
“If after all that, you want to go to church to meet a good woman, you need to do some homework and some soul searchin’. Church is where you go to meet the Lord and then He might let you meet a Christian woman. A good woman in church ain’t lookin’ for a man to fornicate with. She ain’t lookin’ for a foulmouthed man who starts cussin’ and hollerin’ when he ain’t getting his way. She’s lookin’ for a good man, and a man who is seekin’ spiritual things. But you can do that - you can seek spiritual things.
“You gotta dress nice for a church girl. You ought to get you a Bible and start reading the New Testament, specially the red words. That’s the ones Jesus spoke. Then, you gotta go to church and try to follow along in your Bible during the preachin’ and listen to what the preacher says. After church, they might have a fellowship time, where people hangs out and gets to know each other. Be a little shy, and stand there looking pleasant. A woman might approach you. If not, just come back the next time. Keep it up and one will, no doubt in my mind.
“Don’t worry if you don’t know much about religion. Tell her you’re new at all this and are lookin’ to make changes. Church gals like a man who can admit he has made mistakes and is willing to change. You might want to ask her if there are any books that would help you. She will tell you! Church gals like to read, and they like to HELP men who are willin’ to read. If you get this far, you can let mother nature and the Lord take their course. That’s all I am gonna say about you meetin' girls at church. I don’t want the Lord to get mad at me.”
"Good women like good talk. Dirty women like dirty talk. That’s all there is to that one. Me, I ain't never liked no woman what talked like a sailor."
Tondeleo: Doc, some guys say that women want you to talk dirty to them; to use a lot of sexy talk. What do you say?
Doc: “Good women like good talk. Dirty women like dirty talk. That’s all there is to that one. I ain't never liked no woman what talked like a sailor. Don’t never talk dirty around a good woman. It’ll turn her off. Decent women like decent men. I’m a decent man.”
Dressing Nice
Tondeleo: How important is it to dress nice? Would you agree that clothes make the man?
Doc: “Clothes don’t make no man. I seen a lot of so called men dressed up and they wasn’t nothin’ but dressed up sissies. They’s got a magazine for them up town. It’s called GQ an’ I ain't seen nothing in GQ but dressed up sissies. No real woman would want a man that’s a sissy.
But a man needs to learn how to dress good. A good man feels good when he looks good. You ain’t gotta be in a three piece suit or nothin’. Just gotta be sure you’re clean and don’t smell like BO or onions or cars. If I been out in my shop workin' on cars, I stink even if I don’t know it. So I always take a bath and clean up afterwards and put on clean overalls and a shirt. Oh yeh, an you need to shave a couple of times a day, if you want to be with a woman. I learnt the most important time to shave is at night, right before going out to eat or whatever. Shavin' just in the mornin' don't get it. Ain't too many women go for that look where a man is all covered in stubble. And ain't no woman gonna want to rub your face if it feels like sandpaper."
